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Comment on Surveys of Pastors - Shocking Stats by Franklin Zupancic

Franklin Zupancic — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 03:34:42 +0000

I had to read your post three times to get the full meaning of it. I enjoy reading what you have to say. It’s too bad that more people do not understand the benefits of coaching. Keep up the good work.

Comment on Wife In Pain by NiNi

NiNi — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 17:11:00 +0000

I am a pastor’s wife in Pain. I did not even know my husband was goi ing to become a pastor so soon. We are both 26 years old. He just came home one day and told me that he was a pastor now. No discussion and now I am thrown into something I feel that I am not ready for and neither is he. He has ruined my credit, cheated on me, watches porn, doesnt want my help, ignores our children and now he single handedly going to ruin the church finances. I am stressed, I have to monitor him like a child. If I dont do things it wont get done. I am a full time student, mother, work full time and now I have to plan services and events for church when I dont even feel that I know my husband are called to the ministry at this point. I am on the verge of leaving him anyway, and he doesnt understand why I want to leave him. I cant talk to anybody because then Ill be “spreading our business” I cant take this anymore. I feel like God is not with me anymore. I need help, I need prayer. Please anybody???

Comment on Stress, then Burnout by Jay Hunt

Jay Hunt — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 07:54:18 +0000

alchohol abuse would always lead to liver cancer if not properly treated “

Comment on Stress, then Burnout by Francesca Webb

Francesca Webb — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 05:08:08 +0000

i had an ulcer last year because i am fond of skipping meals and working too hard. it was quite painful~,`

Comment on Stress, then Burnout by Ella Walker

Ella Walker — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 10:23:45 +0000

sometimes it is quite difficult to recover from alcohol abuse. “~*

Comment on Surveys of Pastors - Shocking Stats by pastor paul

pastor paul — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 17:13:30 +0000

am lease to see such sta online, it will help some of us to know where to adjust and to helpm ohters who dont know. thanks

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Comment on Wife In Pain by Jan

Jan — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 13:14:30 +0000

Oh, my…I am not going crazy. It’s funny how you think that you are the only one that feels this way. We followed a very strong, successful couple that started the church. Those were the “glory days”. That’s when money wasn’t a problem and the church was building buildings. That was their mission, to be a big. fancy church building. Then my husband and i came and we wanted to be ministering in the community. The economic crisis happened and many had to move away. Somehow the economy and the rate people were leaving has been our faults. They want the “glory days” to happen again. Somehow I feel if we left they would be happy. They want me to be like the last pastor’s wife. She ran the church, did weddings and socials. I am an ex missionary, I don’t even like fancy events. We are so different and the church after 5 years is still in shock. I am a shell of a woman and my husband doesn’t understand. It is loney and I am very disconnected to these people. How much longer can I go?

Comment on Fired! or Rescued by God? by Christopher Crane

Christopher Crane — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 01:57:44 +0000

See, I can certainly understand the perspective from whence you speak. It’s an angle I could wrap my mind around after a few years. But let me give you this one - it’s verbatim what I went through - destroyed. Did nothing wrong. Accused of everything under the sun by wonderful, “Christian” saints. I was accused of affairs I didn’t have. Money I didn’t steal, and even had an internal audit to prove there was no wrongdoing, but no apology was ever offered. My wife was accused of being addicted to drugs, and tested negative for any substance - either illegal or prescription. My fourteen year old daughter, though a virgin, was labeled a whore. Then, my family was “starved out” - no attendance, and no money. The denomination stepped in, and my family was displaced on December 21st, 2009 - just four days before Christmas. No job. No help. No cares. I remember posting something on my Facebook page stating that I didn’t feel much like celebrating Christmas this year. One of these wonderful “saints” chimed in, “How could a so-called ‘Christian’ not celebrate Christmas?!” I replied, “I don’t know, Sue (name changed to protect the guilty). Maybe it’s the fact that my family was made homeless and jobless one week before Christmas. Maybe it’s the fact that my children won’t have presents to open this year. Maybe it’s because instead of having a hope and a future, we’re applying for food stamps and public assistance.” She quickly deleted her ignorant comment. But it was too late, the damage was already done. It’s not possible to see a silver-lining in the clouds of a hurricane. But after a time, once the winds have ceased to blow, you can see God’s hand in all of it. But I prefer to believe that God allowed it… not that He caused it. If God would cause such hurt to children, 12 and 14, then perhaps I never knew Him at all.

Comment on Why Am I Being Rejected? by Christopher Crane

Christopher Crane — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 01:38:27 +0000

I’m finding that my disillusionment, and hurt grows exponentially day by day. I almost wish I had some unforgivable sin I could blame it all upon; some affair, or impropriety. There was none. I was faithful. I did nothing wrong. I was a target of a group of malicious “Christian” church members in a mainline Pentecostal denomination. When church members brutally attacked us, and assassinated our character, and when nothing else worked, “starved us out” by withholding their tithes and attendance - rather than standing with us, denominational leadership abandoned us. I lost a 24 year ministry overnight. Today, I could care less if I ever walk back in a church building again. I make myself attend for the sake of my children. But when they are grown, I am sincerely fearful. I love God. His people sicken me at times. Rather than seeing a glorious church without spot or wrinkle, I’m seeing every wart, wrinkle, and scar. I fear for myself. I fear for my future. Will I ever minister again? As of right now, no. But it’s bigger than that. In my current state of mind and heart. I see myself unchurched within a decade. And I sincerely won’t miss it. In a desperately difficult economy, God has graciously supplied me with a job, and has provided a place for my family to live. It’s all Him. My hurt may heal at some moment in the future. But as of right now, I cannot see my way out of it.