Dealing With Difficult People

Feb 13, 2011 by

Dealing with Difficult People   Although there are several reason why ministry leaders burn-out, one of the most common is weariness in dealing with difficult people. Working with the human heart and spirit is challenging to say the least. It is also rather unpredictable. The counsel or reasoning you used on one person may not work at all on the next person. A congregation of two hundred people will have three hundred opinions or agendas.  As the years roll by, leaders with the strongest of temperaments can become weary.   At one point Jesus looked at his disciples and said, “Oh you of little faith, how long do I have to put up with you?”  Any of us, including the Son of Man, can become weary with human stubbornness. You are not alone.  ...

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Trimming the Wick

Dec 30, 2008 by

In all the times of aggravation, consternation and head shaking of being a servant of God, a loving wife, a joyful mother, a spiritual leader to other women, young and old, there are times when I have just laid on my bed and cried feeling helpless and discouraged that I just couldn’t measure up to the expectations of all these people! I have felt so small and inconsequential as I reached out to people with encouragement, assistance and a smile knowing that my little bit of help was not really going to make a big difference in their lives. When I was in my twenties I really thought my words had weight but as I grew older I found that most people went ahead and did what they were planning to do despite my...

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Choosing A Positive Viewpoint

Dec 30, 2008 by

If you are totally frazzled, worn-out and perhaps angry toward half the church, it is easy to only see the negative side of the situation. This often leads to bitterness forming in the heart and future unhappiness. It’s easy and natural for the flesh to feel this way. However, for the sake of our marriage, children and relationship with our Lord Jesus, we need to exercise the free choice Father has given us, and choose how we view the past or the present. I’m not speaking about deceiving ourselves for the sake of our emotional health. All events, no matter how painful they were, can be viewed from a hundred different angles. If our pain is intense, our flesh may choose to view people and past events from a most negative angle. I want...

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The Blood Covenant

Dec 30, 2008 by

Today, many westerners get upset with life’s circumstances. We are sometimes led to believe that life should work well and everything should be blessed of God, once we become a Christian. Many churches even imply you are doing something wrong if you are not blessed abundantly. Scripture states the opposite. While we partake in Christ’s sufferings, while we enter the Kingdom through much tribulation, while many diverse trials come upon us, let us remember the very nature of the blood covenant. Father has made a blood covenant with us through our Lord Jesus, and it is the defining relationship we have with our God. In the modern western world we put little stock in covenant. It is little more than a word from another age. In our marriage covenants, we promise to stick with...

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Just Push

Dec 30, 2008 by

A man was sleeping at night in his cabin when suddenly his room filled with light and the Savior appeared. The Lord told the man he had work for him to do, and showed him a large rock in front of his cabin. The Lord explained that the man was to push against the rock with all his might. This the man did, day after day. For many years he toiled from sun up to sun down, his shoulders set squarely against the cold, massive surface of the unmoving rock, pushing with all his might. Each night the man returned to his cabin sore, and worn out, feeling that his whole day had been spent in vain. Seeing that the man was showing signs of discouragement, the Adversary decided to enter the picture by...

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Reflections on Your Calling

Dec 30, 2008 by

One of the inner struggles many leaders experience occurs after resignation or termination. What about my calling? Am I failing in my commitments to God? Does God view me as a failure or a quitter? One of the most common mistakes we make is to allow our calling to pastor or ministry leader supersede our calling to “follow me.” We experienced great joy when we were first called and came to know our savior Jesus and the bright future Father has in store for us. Years later when we entered the ministry many of us allowed the calling to preach or lead become the all- consuming passion to the detriment of our relationship with Jesus, our spouse, our children and even to the congregation. I would like to suggest to you a few considerations....

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