Category Archives: Burnout

Musings On Freedom

“It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” Paul’s words to the Galatians ring loud in our ears today - or do they? When we look about and notice how many churches and denominations seem to enslave their people with a variety of ideas, programs, requirements and expectations that, at times, seem extra-biblical, I can’t help wonder if many of us are missing the boat on freedom.

Coming into relationship with Christ is supposed to be the greatest liberating experience we have, yet for many, including pastors and ministry leaders, freedom in Christ has become a-burnout-experience. To those who become angry, disillusioned, and cynical, freedom and church are two words that don’t belong in the same sentence. Could our whole approach to church and ministry be far off base?

When we look at the scriptures we see Jesus having a very different approach than many ministers and leaders of today. Jesus seems so easy going. He enjoys hanging out and eating dinner with the biggest sinners in town. The only people he gets upset with are the religious people. Those are the hard to get along with people! When a woman caught in adultery is brought to him for judgement, he doesn’t condemn her or even give her a moralizing sermon. He loves her. No pressure. No guilt trips. Everything he says to her is restoring, loving and healing. Everything he says to her is out of the tree of life. Everything the legalists that want her stoned to death say and do is out of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. I can’t help but think so many of us still have much to learn about freedom.

My home country is Canada. My wife’s homeland is America. Our two countries have the same problem. We have lots of illegal immigrants sneaking into our two nations. There are no walls built around Canada or America with machine guns and guards ready to shoot citizens who try to escape. We have no problems with people wanting to escape. Our problems are with so many people trying to sneak in! Do you have that problem in your church? Too many people sneaking in because your church is such an awesome place where people can become all they dream they can be? Is your church so freedom oriented that people are slipping in the basement windows and back doors and passing themselves off as members so they can enjoy the full benefits of living in a church family environment where freedom allows them to reach for the stars? Hello?

Why are so many churches highly controlled environments? Where do we get these ideas and patterns of management and organization? Many ideas and methods stem out of the old way of the written code and flourish because we really don’t understand the fullness of the new covenant. Some of this controlling culture stems out of our worldly egos and desires to have the biggest or best church around.

The age old struggle for power and control is as much alive in some congregations as it is in the political arena. Boards, trustees, deacons, leading members - sometimes arm wrestle for office of power broker, and the pastor or ministry leader becomes a puppet, pretending he/she is in charge. In reality this self-deception on the part of the pastor becomes a contributing factor in future burnout.

In a free environment like Canada or America, the highly creative and innovative individual can become all God blesses upon them. They can grow up to become nation shaping adults that change the way we live, work and play. Ideally, that is the way church should be. Our congregations need to be launching pads that teach and show God’s will for people and then give them the tools and freedom to launch into ministry with God’s blessing upon them - rather than the church board’s control or denial burdening down the individual with a weight that seems too great to carry.

What happens to up-and-coming superstars in countries where the government wants to control everything? The creative and innovative become frustrated, and even though they love their country, they eventually move on and immigrate to free nations where their talents and innovative new ideas can be launched and appreciated. Is this fact any different in our churches? How many congregations have lost their young because the old leadership is over-controlling or unwilling to see a new paradigm? How many very creative para-church ministries have been launched apart from a local church because the local church was too stifling or controlling?

There is a law of leadership that states a leader usually cannot attract any followers who have greater leadership skills or creativity than themselves. Thus, the majority of churches in North America have attendance between 80 and 120 people. Why? As people attend a church they begin to realize the have more on the ball than the local pastor - especially if the local leadership are controllors and manipulators. Especially if the leadership stifles freedom. The church member then makes a decision to stay and fight the system, or move on to another church where the leadership has greater skill then he does. Or, in some cases, the up and coming star may drift off and start their own ministry or church. If he/she stays in the local congregation and pushes for their new ideas and ministries, they may be asked to leave - fired, kicked-out, excommunicated, tossed out the door, sent packing, etc! This has happened millions of times over in churches and businesses in North America.

Allowing the freedom Jesus gave us to flow in all the congregation’s activities accomplishes two wonderful things. It takes huge pressure off the controlling pastor, and it allows everyone in the congregation to live happier and achieve what God has in mind for them. Until freedom reigns in our congregations, burnout in both leaders and members will continue. There is much more to the subject of burnout, but understanding freedom and living in freedom will do much to take the pressures off our lives and give us the chance to experience the joy of the Lord.

It is a good test to look at our ministries and ask “How much have I been a controller and how much of my frustration has come because people were not living up to my expectations? Did I place burdens on others that were too hard to carry? Did I judge more harshly than the Lord Himself? Or even, did I make certain decisions to please the power wielders of the congregation rather than for the good of the church? Am I frustrated because I expect more from myself than I can give? ”

Answer the questions honestly then give the whole package to Jesus and ask Him to forgive the sin of putting the will of man above the will of God. Then relax, have a good laugh at yourself for thinking you were in charge, and have fun watching Him take over in the real administration of the Church, through the life of freedom that has its best expression in serving the Lord. What a beautiful bride the church will be when she can be loving, self-controlled, wise and joyful all out of her own free will and desire, without fear of judgment and rejection, always confident that she is loved!

Insecure Leaders

There is no doubt - insecure leaders often become control freaks and tyrants that make everyone’s life miserable and the stress created in the relationships with the leader contibute to his/her own burnout. The insecure leader tries to make everyone over in his image, and make the outward appearance of the group or church look good so as to prove he is a good leader. Followers generally don’t like their freedom taken away, and they down-right hate having their creativity and ingenuity chained down. Tension and distrust grow between leader and followers, and if something doesn’t change, the leader will become more dictatorial, or the followers will start to leave. Worse yet, the followers rise up, rebel and demand the departure of the leader. Burnout and cynicism can become the internal culture of the church or ministry.

Control, instead of love and freedom, becomes the unspoken life-blood of the group. I remember sitting in many a ministers’ meeting in our old legalistic denomination, and the regional pastor would be teaching his slanted view of life, God, and church. Often the ideas were filled with distrust and even a bigotry toward other parts of the Body of Christ. I would glance around the room at different senior pastors I knew had different viewpoints than the ones being expressed. No one ever challenged the bigotry, or the theology. To do so would place you into a new category within the church. To do so would stir fear in the regional pastor, and given enough fear and time, the regional pastor would have to deal with the issue - usually by getting rid of the challenger. In such a culture, fear and insecurity are the unspoken (even unrecognized) governing controls. Unconditional love, and the awesome freedom Jesus won for us on the cross are merely “terms” used in church-speak.

If you suspect (and even if you don’t suspect) that you are ruled more by fear and insecurity than unconditional love, spend some time with the Lord, and focus on love and freedom, and repent where needed. Giving others their freedom is one of the most healing and stress relieving changes you can make!

Fence Laws and How they Deny Father’s Love

Fence laws are man made. That fact alone should make you nervous! Fence laws go above and beyond God, in an attempt tp prevent people from sinning. The fence law puts a fence around a possible sin, and therefore, is supposed to prevent us from stumbling into that sin.

For example, if a leader in a denomination thinks dancing leads to sex, he may create a fence law for the denomination that states, “we don’t dance, it’s worldly.” The fact David danced before God in worship is irrelevant. The fact Miriam danced with a huge crowd on the beach in worship after God saved them from Pharoah’s army is irrelevant. The fact the Bible and God are not against dancing is irrelevant.

Some denominations are against any use of alcohol, even in moderation. They may make a fence law against it. The fact Jesus, the disciples and Paul all drank wine is irrelevant. The fact God commanded Israel to drink “strong drink” during the Feast of Tabernacles is irrelevant. The fact that Jesus’ first public miracle was masterfully changing water into the best wine the crowd had tasted is also irrelevant.

The above are basic examples. Modern Christianity has thousands of fence laws, and some are so deeply entrenched that if you dare challenge any of them you may be martyred in short order! The fact God has already accepted you is quite irrelevant. If you don’t measure up to our fence law, you are out of luck, buddy!

Why are fence laws so destructive? Why do fence laws insult the love of Father toward you? Why was Jesus so kind to sinners, yet was ready to war with fence law makers (Pharisees) at the drop of a hat?

First, let’s consider the fact fence laws are made by man and usually demand more of us than God asks. God doesn’t tell us what color of socks we must wear to worship services, how many chapters of scripture to read daily, or to abstain from dancing or moderate use of alcohol. When man makes laws requiring more of us than God does, human pride and the desire to control others enters the equation. This can be deeply wounding to a person’s spirit. They have given their lives to Jesus. They have died in the baptism tank, yet, more is required at the hands of a human being, and if you don’t comply, you may find yourself outside your church’s circle of community. The message as I see it (and feel it over thirty years of Christianity) is, “You still don’t measure up. You are still unacceptable.”

I thank our Lord Jesus and Father for comforting me and showing me their view is entirely different. Once you and I give our lives to Jesus in the baptism tank, and allow the flow of The Holy Spirit to lead and guide us, Father looks at us and sees only the righteousness of Christ. Father’s love surpasses all of man’s silly and binding yokes and burdens. Fence laws have a way of saying to you that you are not measuring up to a higher level of righteousness and God will not be pleased! Thankfully Father shows us differently, and we can “rest” in His grace and blood covenant love, instead of squirm under man’s fence laws.

Fence laws can help wear you out. Jesus burden is light, his yoke is easy. Fence laws lay guilt upon you if you are not complying, and thus they can in their own way contribute to both church burnout and spiritual burnout. God loves you just they way you are, and when you “rest” in his Spirit, the Spirit will mold and shape you according to Jesus’ timetable. God bless you and remember, Father loves you beyond understanding!

FAQ about Spiritual Burnout- Part 2

This article is designed to explore the frustration and bewilderment we can experience in burnout. We have chosen to discuss those frustrations rather than simply answer the questions with technical answers.

WHY?

Why would God allow these things to happen when we are seeking Him as never before in our lives? Why do the scriptural promises not seem to materialize when our focus is on Him, our guidance and direction are from Him and our desire is to please Him with involvement in His work? Why would God leave us? Why would we devote our life to worshipping a God we can no longer understand?

Why? Perhaps the most profound question human beings ever ask. We go through life with a whole series of expectations - for us, for others and for God. When we don’t measure up to our expectations we react along a spectrum from complete denial, to blaming everyone else. When others don’t measure up to our expectations, we may become disappointed or even angry with them. When God doesn’t measure up to our expectations we can become cynical, bitter and caustic. We want life to work. Period. End of statement. We do what we think God requires, and God is supposed to hold up His end and make our life work our way. When it appears like He is gone on vacation and doesn’t care about us, we ask why with a curl of our lip.

From God’s point of view life does work - His way. Our burnout is designed to purge us of all that disappoints us and to bring our focus back around to Him. When life works God’s way we may spend a lot of time in the bottom of a dry well and then be sold into slavery in Egypt, or we may spend many years in prision on the Isle of Patmos with no soft mattress to sleep on in our old age. Either way, life works - God’s way - for our good!

HOW?

How could other Christians behave so unChrist-like and still claim to be led of Him by the Holy Spirit? How could a God of love give us stones when we ask for bread and He has promised us the desires of our heart? How is God going to bring forth good out of this evil situation when we are driven from Him in disappointment, despair and disillusionment? How can we trust our life to God ever again?

In other words, how can we go on when our unfulfilled expectations have taken us to complete disillusionment. Nothing appears to have worked, no matter how hard we tried to live the Christian walk. We don’t know if we can trust God tomorrow because of what He allowed to happen to us today. But, this is good is it not? The Gospel is God’s message unto eternal life. If death seems to be all around us and inside of us destroying us, then we have flaws in our belief system - and asking why with great boldness is a good exercise in strong reality.

WHAT?

What is the purpose and plan of God in this situation? What in the world is life all about?

To some these questions are far too simple. But, to the burned out and spiritually bankrupt, these are not simple at all. Burnout makes you stop and re-think everything in your belief system - and that’s good. If these questions cause the ministry leader to closely examine his understanding of the Gospel it is a very good thing.

WHEN?

When does it end? When does this journey through the valley of the shadow of death come out on the other side? When will we desire to get close to other ‘Christians’ again? When will we have implicit trust in God again?

Yes, there is a future - if you choose it. Some won’t, but most will. After Father leads you to a whole new relationship with Jesus. That’s why at Smoldering Wick Ministries we believe in mentoring leaders in Tree of Life living and walking in the new way of the Spirit as opposed to the old way of the better life of blessings.

WHERE?

Where is the Lord when He is needed? Where is the destination God has in mind? Where is hope? Where is healing? Where is a whole, sound and healthy spirit, mind and body? Where is life? Where is the joy of the Lord? Where is God’s love, comfort and strength? Where is the switch to shut down the fiery furnace?

It has always amazed me, as a Canadian living in America, how the American version of the Gospel is so focused on this life. The here and now, and how it should be an endless succession of blessings, fun, joy, and endless prosperity. At times it seems the American church has lost the idea of growth and character building through trials and suffering. This life is bootcamp for eternity, and it is a priviledge to partake in the sufferings of Jesus. The answer to the above questions on “where” is - in heaven, and if your first place passion is on a relationship with Jesus and not a list of blessings you probably can experience some of those things in this life!

WHO?

Who can restore to us the years that the locust, the cankerworm, the caterpillar and the palmerworm have eaten? Who can bind up our broken hearts, proclaim liberty to us captives and open our prisons? Who can give unto us beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning and the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness? Who calls us trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord? Who declares that we bring Him glory? Who describes us as precious gold and rare, priceless jewels? Who has given us sonship and life everlasting?

Jesus Christ the Son of God, the King of Kings, the Lord of Lords, our personal savior, best friend, and the one who allows the blessing of burnout to come upon us to bring us back on track!

WAIT!

When all else fails, WAIT! Again I say, WAIT upon the Lord! WAIT!

FAQ about Spiritual Burnout - Part 1

“How do I know I’m really burned out or just temporarily discouraged?”

The power of burnout overwhelms normal discouragement. In a few days, normal discouragement starts to dissipate and our interest and zeal begin to return. We start coming up with new and creative ideas that might work. With burnout, discouragement only deepens in a downward spiral to depression. Our feelings become blunted, and we don’t even want to hear new ideas. We no longer care.

“What really is burnout?”

Burnout is coming to the end of yourself. Your ideas, your power, your strength, your will, your desires, your efforts to make life and ministry work. It is coming to the point of no longer kidding yourself and facing the fact that your belief system has flaws in it. The theology you subscribe to doesn’t work and you have deceived yourself, and now, you are facing that fact painfully. Burnout is the blessing of God upon you to bring you to greater truth and reality. Burnout is a major correction of love in your life and ministry.

“What causes burnout in ministry?”

Relying on your own strength instead of the Holy Spirit’s. Setting up expectations in your heart that were never true or promised. Having a flawed belief system that leads to disillusionment. A general misunderstanding of the fundamentals of the Gospel - after all, the Gospel is God’s message unto salvation - not burnout.

“Is burnout terminal?”

It doesn’t have to be. We believe it is Father’s way of arresting us, correcting us, and allowing us to move back into ministry, much more intelligent, balanced and with the proper focus. At the moment you may be in such inner turmoil and pain that you can’t see a future at all. We understand. Time and healing will change your current viewpoint.

“Do I have to pull out of ministry to get help?”

No, but you may not be comfortable getting help within your denomination. This can vary greatly. And in some cases, your denominational slant and expectations may be contributing to your burnout. At ministries like Smoldering Wick you can get counseling without fear of ramifications within the denomination. Some of the issues are incredibly sensitive, and you need love and encouragement without any strings attached.

“Is there some type of network or mentoring available for burned out ministers?”

Yes, the group is called “Caregivers” and it is an association of 55 or 60 ministries across North America that help burned out leaders. Web addresses to several can be found on Smoldering Wick’s Resource and link page. Smoldering Wick also mentors leaders in what we call the Tree of Life approach to life and ministry.

“I get excited about things sometimes, but not all the time. I can be really apathetic about stuff that I used to be passionate about. One book I read says you lose your “zeal” after burnout. Is this right, and will it ever come back?”

I do think we lose our zeal, but I like to look at it as a growth step. We can easily be fueled by youthful ideals, and call them Christian values and zeal. After burnout, the stark reality of this life is far more clear. It is a time of re-evaluating many things. We have the chance to toss out a lot and focus on what truly counts. Thus, in many areas of life we will not have the same zeal again. We can’t. The illusion has been shattered by burnout. But in a few selected areas, like a deep genuine relationship with Jesus, and time with our children and grandchildren - we can have real zeal again, with far more realistic expectations that don’t disappoint. Let the Holy Spirit fill you with zeal in a few areas and be happy in that corner of life.

“I feel that people want me to become more involved in the church ministry. I feel the ministries I am involved with currently at church are enough. Is this normal?”

Now that you have experienced burnout, you know better than the others how much you want to get involved. I think it is better to be involved in one ministry, and do a wonderful job and leave it at that. Plus, if you are still in recovery mode, do what Jesus told you to do - “Come to me all you who are weary” - take a rest. It’s OK. Take a rest. Yes, I think it is normal.

“I used to really enjoy reading and studying books, but now I feel like I can’t do it as well as I used to. Does this make sense in your experience?”

You can’t do it as well, or there is not the desire as before? You have been changed deep within, and you may still have the lingering effects of disillusionment. You may not be as keen to devour books to gain the knowledge - since all this great knowledge of the past may have contributed to your disappointment. Maybe some of that knowledge even set you up for disillusionment by misleading you away from the very foundation we hang our hat on. Relax, rest, plug away at ministries you enjoy, and make the rest of your life a focus on Jesus. Even within the church we can get carried away in ten thousand directions.

“Is God trying to get my attention?”

God is always trying to get our attention. He created us to worship Him. He allows the blessing of burnout to bring us to a halt, so we re-think and re-establish a proper relationship with Him. It is not easy or pleasant. It is hell at times. But this is boot-camp for eternity.

“How can this happen? Wasn’t I doing this for the Kingdom of God?”

Exactly, you were doing all this for the Kingdom. Any ministry leader operating out of his/her own strength will burn out. Busyness is not a virtue. God is not impressed by a type A personality. Remember spiritual burnout is a loss of hope and ideals, so you can be serving your brains out but if you are waiting for promises God never gave, or have a slanted view of the Gospel you will become disillusioned and lose your hope.

“Has God rejected me for ministry now?”

God is not in the rejection business. He is in the salvation business. Elijah needed many days and an interesting confrontation with God before he was ready to resume ministry - and it was God who sent him back to ministry! On the road to Emmaus, the two disciples needed a long talk and a new look at Jesus, then they were ready again, for ministry. God is not rejecting you. He loves you, so He is allowing this season of correction to come upon you.

“Where is God in all of this?”

If you feel God has abandoned you, perhaps you’re looking with the wrong focus. In your mind do a quick review of the ministry of Jesus. After the Sermon on the Mount. the whole group walks down the hillside to the road and immediately meets a leper. Every “follower” of Jesus backs off, and it is only Jesus who helps the roadside victim. Jesus and his “followers” are walking down the road past two blind men who shout out loud for help from Jesus, Son of David. The “followers” of Jesus immediately tell the wounded on the roadside to be quiet. Only Jesus stops and cares and heals. On the road to Emmaus the two disciples are burned and very disillusioned, and it is Jesus who comes to the rescue. On the road to Jericho, the Priest and the Levite cross the road to the other side and walk past the wounded because they have important ministry to carry out! Get the point? If you are looking for your denomination to help you, fellow pastors, the body of Christ to jump in and provide you with comfort and help - you may be very disappointed. When some of those followers of Jesus do jump in and help, be so thankful - they are rare people. The followers of Jesus are not exactly world famous for practicing the love they preach about. Those who do are very special people. Look to Jesus - He is the one who always stops and helps. Look to him and if a Good Samaritan also comes along be so thankful.

“How do I handle the feelings of rejection by God and others?”

You need to talk at length to someone like Smoldering Wick Ministries - we have been there. It is a living part of our experience. Talk and pray with someone like us and get a new perspective. You know somewhere deep in your converted heart that God hasn’t rejected you, but, right now it may feel that way! People indeed will reject you, but Kathy and I will not. Give us a call. Let’s talk and pray together.

Surveys of Pastors - Shocking Stats

1991 Fuller Institute of Church Growth

90% work more than 46 hours a week

80% believed pastoral ministry affected their families negatively

33% believed ministry was a hazard to their family

75% reported a significant stress related crisis at least once in their ministry

50% felt themselves unable to meet the needs of the job

90% felt inadequately trained to cope with ministry demands

70% say they have a lower self esteem now compared to when they started in ministry

40% reported serious conflict with a parishioner at least once a month

37% confessed to having been involved in inappropriate sexual behavior with someone in the church

70% do not have someone they consider a close friend

George Barna, What Americans Believe

Less than one half of the people most committed to the church say that their church performs its primary duties with excellence

2 out of 3 adult Americans (67%) say there is no such thing as absolute truth

Blackmon & Hart, Clergy Assessment & Career Development

12% of ministers report they were depressed often or always in their ministry

Malony & Hunt, The Psychology of Clergy

William Moore in a study of 341 clergy from 36 denominations and 43 states showed that unrealistic expectations are a major factor in pastor burnout

60% of clergy wives hold full time jobs or are involved in careers

Some studies suggest 70% of clergy report experiencing major distress

33% have considered leaving the ministry

Leadership, Fall 1992 Marriage Problems Pastors Face

81% insufficient time together

71% use of money

70% income level

64% communication difficulties

63% congregational differences

57% differences over leisure activities

53% difficulties in raising children

46% sexual problems

41% Pastor’s anger toward spouse

35% differences over ministry career

25% differences over spouse’s career

Current Thoughts & Trends, December 1992

28% of pastors said ministry was a hazard to family life

16% said it didn’t affect family either way

57% thought it was beneficial

94% felt under pressure to have the “ideal” family

Estimated 20% of 300,000 clergy suffer from long term stress

One year the Southern Baptist paid out $64 million in stress related claims, second in dollar amounts only to maternity benefits

Leadership, Fall 1992

70% indicated their compensation contributed to marriage conflicts

22% feel forced to supplement their church income

Current Thoughts & Trends, May 1992

Last 3 years, typical pastor’s salary increased less than 1/2 the inflation rate

Average increase for 1988-1991 was 7.4%

Over 40% of single staff pastors felt they were underpaid

33% of senior pastors felt they were underpaid

Duane Alleman, Theology News & Notes, Fuller Seminary

Survey of 228 Pastors’ wives revealed

45% have no close friends

almost half felt constrained to develop close friends in the local church context

Ministries Today, Nov / Dec 1992

Peter Wagner surveyed 572 pastors concerning prayer

Average pastor spent 22 minutes a day

57% spend less than 20 minutes a day

34% spend between 20 minutes and 1 hour

9% pray for 1 hour or longer

Focus on the Family Survey

1500 pastors surveyed

Over half do not meet with a prayer partner regularly

1 out of 4 do not have a trusted friend in ministry

Only 20% have 2 or more paid staff members

Current Thoughts & Trends, July 1992

3 out of 4 church members would give their pastors an “A” (44%) or a “B” (33%)

Only 4% would give them a failing grade

While clergy salaries have risen, buying power has decreased

Source: Pastors at Risk by H.B. London & Neil Wiseman.Victor Press. 1993.

Why Am I Being Rejected?

You have been fired. Perhaps you simply resigned. Maybe you crashed in full blown burnout. In any case, there is a good chance many things have changed in your life. One of those “things” may be the fact that nearly everybody who used to speak and befriend you has dropped you like a hot potatoe. If this isn’t the case, consider yourself fortunate. This does describe the majority of those who have fallen, been axed, or resigned in burnout.But why? Why would friends and fellow ministers drop me so fast? No more emails. No more calls. No more lunches together. It is as if I suddenly came down with leprosy or SARS. What gives?

It really is quite simple. Fear. Yes, fear. The spirit of fear. If it were the Holy Spirit it would be a spirit of love and would come to your aid. But it is fear. You see, you are now outside the culture. You are now part of a culture that has found their Christianity did not work. It may or may not be your doing, but to the others you represent a potential failure of the whole system of local church belief. Your fall, potentially means to them that something could be wrong. They may try to justify it by convincing themselves your fall is your own sin or fault in some form (which it could be or not). They have no desire to really challenge their belief system, and your departure shakes up the status quo. If you, the pastor, worship leader, etc, can come unglued or fall in some manner, then possibly, they could fall too. Perhaps not everything they believe and anchor their life to is true. Most people don’t want to face that thought.

When we don’t challenge our belief system, we end up going along with many a trend in the church, and in this age of mass communication, trends can spread like wild fire. For example, the altar call. Do you know the history of the altar call? Is it Biblical to raise your hand at the pastor’s prompt, and then come to the front so the whole congregation knows your problems? Do you know how many altar calls Paul did in his ministry? I do. None.

The altar call is a recent trend - only about 150 years old (Charles Finney made it popular). Somehow, someway, the church mysteriously survived for 1,800 years with no altar calls. Amazing! (I’m being a little facetious, please excuse me)

In some congregations people stream down to the altar (stage) every week. Week after week, to get zapped one more time by the Holy Spirit. “Maybe this time it will work! Maybe this time the key will be hit upon and my life will finally work!” Maybe, maybe, maybe. What is behind that kind of a belief system? Is there a real comprehension of grace in that situation? Is there a real deep understanding of the unconditional blood covenant love of Father in that kind of situation?

“Maybe I should go to that seminar coming to town next month! The latest greatest speaker will be there talking about my issue. If he prays for me, maybe everything will fall into place.”

Many people today are experiencing a failure in their belief system, but hope to find one little trick, one little key to making it all fall into place and life will work just right! Now, you the pastor, suddenly burn-out or resign from stress and disillusionment, and their whole world is thrown into a test! For many, including fellow pastors and worship leaders, it’s too much to face.

You have caused them a major crisis, and they really don’t what to think about it and look closely at their belief system - it could have serious ramifications to their personal life - and people don’t like change - life-changing change!

Over the past two thousand years many ideas have crept into Christian thought. Some of these ideas have become major beliefs in the basic belief system of western Christianity. The altar call is simply one example.

When a leader goes down - regardless of the cause or fault - it is a challenge to many people’s belief systems. In a world such as ours, people want their iron-clad, rock solid belief system shaken? It’s a scary world out there, and people want the simple answers their belief system seems to offer - and now, with your resignation, you have gone and rocked the apple cart!

The ostrich is famous for sticking its head in the sand and ignoring the present situation. Chrisitians seem willing to do the same. Please keep in mind, Jesus does not abandon you. He is the one who walks forward and touches you even when you are a leper. He stops and listens to you on the side of the road when everyone else tells you to shut up (blind Bartimaeus). In burnout you are on the road to a purified belief system, and Jesus will help you every step of the painful way. Don’t stick your head in the sand. Don’t get uptight about everyone abandoning you - they are reacting to their own fear. Pray for them - it’s awful to be ruled by fear.

You are loved by Father unconditionally. It’s all about blood covenant love. Jesus promised he would never leave you nor forsake you, and Kathy and I are here to listen, talk and pray with you. God bless you our friends!

Stress, Burnout - Quick Overview

By Dr. Arch Hart

Burnout - characterized by disengagement.
Stress - characterized by overengagement.

Burnout - emotions are blunted.
Stress - emotions become over-reactive.

Burnout - exhaustion affects motivation and drive.
Stress - exhaustion affects physical energy.

Burnout - produces demoralization.
Stress - produces disintegration.

Burnout - can best be understood as a loss of ideals and hope.
Stress - can best be understood as a loss of fuel and energy.

Burnout - depression is caused by the grief engendered by loss of ideals and hope.
Stress - depression is caused by the body’s need to protect itself and conserve energy.

Burnout - produces a sense of helplessness and hopelessness.
Stress - produces a sense of urgency and hyperactivity.

Burnout - produces paranoia, depersonalization and detachment.
Stress - produces panic, phobic, and anxiety-type disorders.

Burnout - may never kill you, but your long life may not seem worth living.
Stress - may kill you prematurely, and you won’t have enough time to finish what you started.

Stress, then Burnout

It seems to me so many in the church do not understand spiritual burnout. The helping professions have always had a higher burnout rate than many other types of careers. Social workers, counselors, therapists, psychologists, and other social reform positions have scored high in burnout in the past several decades.

It the past 20 years burnout and rising drug and alcohol abuse has skyrocketed in doctors, lawyers and members of the clergy. This disturbing trend also includes suicide. In fact, I am writing this article just two weeks after the suicide of one of Colorado Springs’ most loved pediatricians. A man who gave so much to the community, he had nothing left.

Some doctors claim stress contributes to 90% of all diseases. Even if this figure is exaggerated a tad, we all know stress plays a major factor in our life that isn’t good. Good stress we need, yes indeed, but with clergy burnout rates climbing to 1,500 a month, there is a lot of bad stress in the church and in the mind and heart of the ministry leader.

In this article let’s look at the main differences between stress and burnout.

Stress can be characterized by over-engagement. Running around putting out every brush fire in the congregation, making every decision, and trying to solve every problem. “Fixers” are notorious for over-engagement.

Burnout is characterized by disengagement. The ministry leader has become disillusioned and exhausted. He/she no longer desires to “fix” anyone or anything. Mild burnout causes pastors to look the other way and pretend that problem doesn’t exist in the congregation. (There are millions of ministry leaders in this category. These leaders need to be reassured that looking the other way isn’t always a bad thing. The leader doesn’t have to be the savior - that’s Jesus’ job. It is his church, he is the administrator, the guide, the high priest, the word, the bread, the life. Left alone by the pastor, Jesus has been known on occasion to fix a problem all by himself!) Full burnout is a case of extreme compassion fatigue and leads to resignation and extremes of escapism that can be destructive.

Stress - the emotions can be over-reactive. Sudden outbursts of temper, or outbursts of weeping. In burnout the emotions become crippled. The ministry leader sits and stares out the window for extended periods of time. There is little reaction to good or bad news. The compassion drive to help others dies. In spiritual burnout, the emotion-links to the spirit are damaged, and spiritual underpinnings are slowly replaced with growing frustration that can manifest toward man and God.

In Stress, the main damage is to the physical body. Ulcers, headaches, high blood pressure, etc. With burnout, motivation and drive are afflicted. Again, this isn’t always bad. The burnout victim needs to learn to “rest” in Jesus. He/she has burned-out from trying to do all things all the time, and build the world’s greatest church all by themselves. Stress creates physical exhaustion which also is a good thing for the “type A” world saver. They also need to rest in the Lord Surveys show us that some of the most successful pastors in North America spend precious little time with their mates or children.

Burnout creates demoralization. You reach a point where you believe your are no longer effective as a pastor, worship leader, etc. What’s the use? No matter what I do it’s never good enough. Nobody benefits from my ministry. Nothing ever changes. Many people hate my guts.

Stress is often understood in terms of loss of fuel and energy. Burnout is the loss of ideals and hope. This can rapidly lead to detachment, or pulling away from others, and defeatism - the feeling you’re beaten and everyone, even God doesn’t seem to be on your side anymore.

Depression can occur with both stress and burnout. Depression created by stress is often the body’s response to protect itself and conserve energy. The depression associated with burnout is grief created by the loss of ideals and hope (this was the depression Elijah felt after Mt. Carmel failed to instantly change the entire nation back to Yahwah worship and catapult him into super status as the greatest revivalist in history). With this grief/depression comes a sense of helplessness piled on top the hopelessness. At this point one of two things usually happens to the wounded ministry leader. He/she may become very combative, like a wounded animal backed into a corner, striking out verbally at every threat real or imagined. Or, they may simply disappear. I would love to know the statistics on the number of former pastors in North America that have totally dropped out of organized religion. It seems every week I hear of or talk to another pastor who tried to move on to attend in another denomination, and did so for a year or two, then quietly disappeared into the misty dark night of uninvolvement.

While stress can produce panic, and anxiety disorders, burnout can produce paranoia. It is our belief at Smoldering Wick, that certain levels of paranoia definitely contribute to the high number of drop-outs among clergy and lay-members alike.

The above are some of the differences between stress and burnout. High stress is often a contributing factor leading to burnout, but stress is by no means the main cause. Not understanding the very core of God’s heart and living in the light of that understanding is the main cause of spiritual burnout. From this lack of understanding come the subtle twists and perversions of the Gospel itself, and all the unrealistic expectations that break the spirit of so many sincere Christians. What is needed for healing is to come to know the very heart of God correctly - probably for the first time - and not swallowing any more gospels that seem to promise everything in this life.

My Story of Burnout

My journey began when I went overseas with a missions agency. I had just come from a two year stint at Bible College, and previous to that a four year stint at a library job, which had been a very stressful experience.

I felt that God was opening the door for me to go overseas with a mission in England for one year. I never expected anything like burnout would ever happen while I was overseas. Hey, it was England, not Afghanistan.

I had always been a driven person, a people pleaser. I never thought this would have the consequences it did. After three months with the mission and with lots of stress connected with the base life, I was put on a team. I wanted to please my team leaders, co-workers and God. I wasn’t getting my downtime at all, and I was taking on too many responsibilities. Some came with the job, and some I heaped on myself. I was really run down, but I didn’t think I was over-committing myself because everyone else seemed to be doing the same thing. I thought nothing bad could happen if we were all doing it for Jesus.

When the big summer campaign preparations started, the spiral continued downward to burnout. Nearing the end of the preparations I was working too much, and not giving myself enough time to rest. I would be going from 9 AM to 10:30 PM, only stopping for food and dishes. Well, the night before I went out with my team for the summer campaign I really burned out.

I first noticed trouble breathing, and then things started getting worse. By the middle of the night I knew something was really wrong. It seems amazing, but within a few days I had gone from doing 200% to 0% and still falling. I felt like someone had kicked me in the mental processes of my brain, and extracted something. To make things worse, I also had an acute attack of bronchitis the same day. Bizarre but true!

I was really a mess. I had trouble sleeping, doing anything mental was killing me, and my nerves were just shot to pieces. I thought for sure they would send me home, but they didn’t. After a week or two of this, I was diagnosed with burnout. I didn’t have any clue what this meant, but I knew what I had was pretty lousy and bordering on the horrific.

I was put on sleeping pills for about ten days, but after they were finished, I went right back to insomnia. Those initial months of adapting to the burnout were something pretty bad. I remember just thinking why has this happened to me? What is God trying to teach me? Couldn’t He just send an angel instead of this? It was during this time that I was re-assigned to the practical work team at the base, making preparations for the new recruits. I would spend my day helping whoever needed some help, and doing odd jobs. This was gratefully needed as anything with “complex thinking” just blew my mind it seemed.

I remember having panic attacks, and having to stick my head under water just to cool myself down and restore calm. People couldn’t understand what was going on with me, but they knew something bad had happened.

During this difficult time a couple from the base befriended me. They listened to me, consoled me, fed me, counseled me and even let me crash at their place when I was feeling very paranoid. This couple supported me greatly even though they didn’t have much experience with people who had burned out. I am still very grateful to them.

I remember one night I couldn’t sleep and I was really upset with God. As I was drinking warm milk, trying to relax, I noticed a verse that was written on the cup. It said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” I took this as a special message from God. I was really out of it, but even those words meant that at least God did care.

When everyone came back from the campaign, I rejoined my old team, but within a couple of months, we all realized that I wasn’t making it. I couldn’t keep up my responsibilities, so in the interest of the team and myself, I was assigned to a practical work team and particularly with a guy from Switzerland.

God used this man and his family to bring more love to me. With them and the previous couple, I started to feel God’s compassion and mercy in my life.

It was hard to leave the team that I had originally joined, as it was like a band of brothers to me. The practical work team was the only solution to my state of mind at the time, and though I knew this, it still hurt.

Even though God was bringing me through this mess, I still couldn’t see the big picture. I felt happy at times, and angry at other times. Do I like God? Do I not like God? Which will it be today? These were my common thoughts.

I thank God that He can handle our emotions, for his love is unconditional all the time regardless of the situation. I can’t describe the absolute despair of that time. Most people couldn’t grasp what was going on with me. It was sheer effort to do anything. My zeal, passion and excitement for life tanked below zero.

When I returned home from the mission field , I found out that most people didn’t even know that I had burned out. Some people didn’t even know that I had been on a mission. Most people were just too busy to help. This added to my sense of frustration and sadness. I ended up taking some time off from life, and headed to my home town for a mental break from life. This was probably the best thing I ever did. I didn’t have much money, but that seemed minor compared to the need that I felt to just get somewhere quiet where I could take time to heal.

During this time God started to work with me, helping me reorient my life toward a more balanced approach. I ended up returning to the city and started working again on a consistent basis. Even that was painful, but I had to pay the bills. My feelings were always swinging. One day I was fine, the world was great and the next I was down. It was a continual roller coaster. One day I just got fed up with God. I said, “I need some help with this burnout. No one can help me at my church.”

Within two months, I was searching the web on burnout, and I came across Smoldering Wick Ministries. They were like a godsend. For once, I found out that other people had gone through this burn out, too. I could relate to these people and what they had written on their website.

It has been almost seven years since my burnout. I still have bad days, but I have more better days. I still get very indifferent about things. But now I know that God loves my unconditionally and regardless of how I feel, God will always be there for me (even if it doesn’t seem like it at times). I don’t have to have it all figured out, or try to make things happen any more. God will sort it all out. God is not concerned about what we do so much as the relationship with us.

Nothing can separate us from the love of God.

THIS JOURNEY IS FOR LIFE.
Richard Birkenes